So, Malias just brought me a diaper from the trash a bit ago and I decided it would make an interesting post.
I am not sure why my son has such fascination with diapers. It is kinda funny. . .but a little annoying. Annoying because his fascination only lies with the dirty diapers. Once the old diaper has been removed and wrapped tightly into a wad and a new one in its place we have to hurry and get rid of the old diaper because Malias wants it. I can't figure out why. Every time I let my guard down after changing him he takes the opportunity to grab the wad of old, yucky diaper and tries to carry it around. Even if the bathroom door gets left open by accident he will find his way in there and pull out an old diaper from the trash. Eeeww. Luckily ALL poopy diapers go straight to the outside trash but still, I just think its gross to handle old diapers. Especially when they are cold. I don't know why but that is just SO gross to me.
Anyways I also have a question to anyone with kind advise.
Malias has become SOO clingy when he is home alone with me. I can't figure out why. I has been this way at least a few months. Once Kenny is home or if I go somewhere with other people, Malias is just fine to go off and play and be happy. But at home with just me. . .He Cries like the world is ending if I even walk a few feet away. It is starting to drive me a little crazy. I mean I feel like I can't do anything cause I don't want to hear him screaming while I try to do things. It would be so nice just to go to the bathroom without him running behind me crying like he will never see me again.
He is happy ONLY if i am sitting in the same room with him or when he is getting fed in his high chair. I try to just let him cry sometimes but I can only take it for so long and then I am just feeling frustrated with him and then I feel guilty and so most of the time I just try to avoid the whole cycle. I have tried talking to him and explaining that I am not leaving and telling him what I am doing but it hasn't seemed to help at all.
I need ideas or uplifting thoughts I guess....I don't know what to do. Is it just a phase that will end someday???...I hope...
Afterthought: Its not only if I leave the room. I can be in the same room and trying to do anything and the crying starts. When I try to do dishes, he will be standing with me crying and pushing his way between me and the counter trying to step on my feet. Right now he is wailing at me because I am on the computer. Even though i just gave him 20 minutes of cuddling and playing and undivided attention. ugh.
I am not sure why my son has such fascination with diapers. It is kinda funny. . .but a little annoying. Annoying because his fascination only lies with the dirty diapers. Once the old diaper has been removed and wrapped tightly into a wad and a new one in its place we have to hurry and get rid of the old diaper because Malias wants it. I can't figure out why. Every time I let my guard down after changing him he takes the opportunity to grab the wad of old, yucky diaper and tries to carry it around. Even if the bathroom door gets left open by accident he will find his way in there and pull out an old diaper from the trash. Eeeww. Luckily ALL poopy diapers go straight to the outside trash but still, I just think its gross to handle old diapers. Especially when they are cold. I don't know why but that is just SO gross to me.
Anyways I also have a question to anyone with kind advise.
Malias has become SOO clingy when he is home alone with me. I can't figure out why. I has been this way at least a few months. Once Kenny is home or if I go somewhere with other people, Malias is just fine to go off and play and be happy. But at home with just me. . .He Cries like the world is ending if I even walk a few feet away. It is starting to drive me a little crazy. I mean I feel like I can't do anything cause I don't want to hear him screaming while I try to do things. It would be so nice just to go to the bathroom without him running behind me crying like he will never see me again.
He is happy ONLY if i am sitting in the same room with him or when he is getting fed in his high chair. I try to just let him cry sometimes but I can only take it for so long and then I am just feeling frustrated with him and then I feel guilty and so most of the time I just try to avoid the whole cycle. I have tried talking to him and explaining that I am not leaving and telling him what I am doing but it hasn't seemed to help at all.
I need ideas or uplifting thoughts I guess....I don't know what to do. Is it just a phase that will end someday???...I hope...
Afterthought: Its not only if I leave the room. I can be in the same room and trying to do anything and the crying starts. When I try to do dishes, he will be standing with me crying and pushing his way between me and the counter trying to step on my feet. Right now he is wailing at me because I am on the computer. Even though i just gave him 20 minutes of cuddling and playing and undivided attention. ugh.
4 comments:
Maybe he thinks the dirty diaper are some kind of a ball??? He will grow out of it.
He will also grow out of the clingy stage as well. It is an oldest child thing I have decided. Cuz Maddie did that. I just let her follow me around and I left the bathroom door open so she could still see me. Babies just don't like to be left alone. Cuz even Preston will start to cry if he is the only one in the room. If the girls are in there and I leave the room he is fine. They do grow out of it. Just be patient. And letting him cry for a few minutes doesn't hurt him.
You are a good Mom :)
I wish I could tell you when they grow out of it but I can't cause Adam still does the same thing with me.... It has gotten a little better since he has gotten older but he doesn't like when I hold and play with Payton so it feels the same in many ways... you can always vent to me, I know what your going through :)
Hang in there Tara and Joanna. Just like Tristan said they will out grow it. And it does also seem to be an oldest child issue because they are alone first for a little bit. Just take a deep breath when the screaming starts and know that it will get better with time and age. Keep talking to them about it too, just a brief statement "Mommy is going to the bathroom for a minute". My neighboor would laugh when I would go downstairs to switch a load of laundry, because he would be screaming bloody murder! Now he is almost a teenager and it seems like just a moment of sillyness.
when other people are there he gets attention from more than just you. He might not want to be/feel alone. and When its just you and you turn away or walk into another room it might seem that way. If it were me I'd treat it like potty training. If he can be by himself for a while, make a big deal about it and reward him.
I too have had no privacy in the bathroom with each kid. I don't know how crazy you would be with this idea, but it worked for me. Sit him in his high chair and give him about 1/2 cup of flour on the tray and a basting brush or spoon. its kind of like dry painting I don't know why, but they think its awesome and I get a good 10 minutes out of it. You can set him outside or in the tub and brush him off.
I don't know with the diapers. maybe if you make him throw them away so he knows where they go??? If he does think its a ball you have basketball practice. LOL
It is gross, but there are far worse phases.
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